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Early on, it’s hard to tell if a weird action is due to normal awkwardness… or something else. We help you decipher.

What he does: Monopolizes conversations
What it means: He might be more nervous than egomaniacal. Smitten men often brag to try to prove that they’re good enough for you. Interject with your own stories. If he’s a quality dude, he’ll listen up.

What he does: Fails to make a move
What it means: the truth is, guys have gotten so many mixed messages about how fast to push things physically that they can get insecure and freeze up. If you want things to progress, you may need to give a subtle green light by grabbing his hand or leaning in for a kiss.

✔ To relate to what a pal is going through, think back to a similar situation you were in. Example: If she’s frustrated about finding a guy, recall the worries you had when looking for a job.

✔ The more info you take in, the more your brains has to screen out. So, using your cell and email 24/7 hampers your ability to read people. Shut it all off sometimes to tune in to others.

How Do Men Recover From Breakups So Quickly?

The secret? None. Men don’t bounce back from a breakup right away — though it may appear so. Guys are simply more practiced at not letting their emotions show, even when they are crushed by a relationsip’s demise. Men, by nature, think that showing their emotions, especially sadness, is a sign of weakness. Hence, we either repress them or put up a facade that everything is okay.

Why some couples survive arguments and others don’t.

The key to disagreeing without feeling devastated by it or by damaging your relationship: Talk about your feelings in neutral terms, without blaming or criticizing your partner. Then clearly state how you’d like to see the issue resolved.

Try to bring some affection or humor into the dialogue. In recent studies done at the University of Washington, researchers predicted with 94 percent accuracy whether a couple would stay together based on how they discussed a contentious relationship issue. The couples who could laugh, tease each other, and express affection while arguing are the ones who endured.

✔ The Split Personality. Sometimes she’ll kick off her stilettos and gab with you about haircuts and boyfriends. But when she gets angry, her screams can be heard from across the office.

Management strategy: Sit beside her when she’s involved in a passive activity, like scanning the newspapers. Put your hand on her arm, and as you feel her muscles relax a bit, say “It seems like something’s on your mind. Can I get you something?” If she won’t open up, don’t pry, but keep the physical connection. If she does spill, just listen so she knows how much it means for her to share it with you.

✔ The Cult Leader. Her dazzling charisma and passion for your project motivate you to work extremely hard — commuting to the office on weekends, answering text messages at one (1) a.m. Then one morning, the alarm clock rings and you can’t do anything except pull the covers over your head.

Management strategy: Set boundaries. No more answering emails on a Saturday night, or keeping your cellphone strapped to your waist. Talk to her about getting help with your workload — if she’s as worthy of your worship as you think, she’ll listen.

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